Why I Do This Work
I was born in the Congo, raised in Belgium, and forged in America.
My life has been shaped by responsibility, adaptation, and leadership learned the hard way.
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From competitive sports to classrooms to building a seven-figure business, leadership was never something I chased. It was something I was consistently called into.
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Building a successful company taught me how to lead teams and create environments where people thrive. But as professional success grew, a quieter struggle emerged. I was respected at work, yet disconnected at home. Productive, but internally strained. Capable, but carrying more than I was willing to admit. The truth is that I didn't feel safe at home to share all that was happening in me.
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Everything changed when I was forced to stop running. That pause revealed a truth many men live with but rarely name.
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The same year, January almost had a full blown panic attack at midnight "stuck in a loop", April lost 10 huge clients, 10% margins cut, July my oldest son tried to commit suicide, October my wife and I decided to live separately for 6 months, November we boht moved to our new living arragements.
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I'm sharing all this to say, I've been in some pretty low points in my life. And still decided, to get back up and move. And because of it I can go in the your pit, in your darkness and sit with you, as we come out.
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Strength without integration eventually fractures. Discipline without emotional fluency creates distance. Success without presence comes at a cost.
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Through that reckoning, I developed what I now call Gentle Rage. Not suppression. Not explosion. Controlled intensity that forges leadership rather than burning it down.
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Today, I work with men who carry real responsibility. Husbands, fathers, entrepreneurs, leaders. Men who perform well outwardly, yet know something is misaligned internally.
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This work isn’t about hype or motivation.
It’s about clarity. Regulation. Integrity.
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Leadership that holds under pressure.
If this resonates, coaching is where the work begins.
NEW BOOK
Gentle Rage
The Manual for Good Men to Not Shrink
Gentle Rage is not about becoming louder, harder, or more aggressive.​ It’s about becoming steady under pressure.
This book is for men who carry responsibility, lead others, and keep going even when the weight is invisible. Men who are strong on the outside, but feel the quiet cost of holding everything together.
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Julien J. Marion introduces Gentle Rage as disciplined fire
a strength that doesn’t explode or disappear, but forges.
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Through lived experience, spiritual grounding, and practical frameworks, Gentle Rage guides men back to emotional regulation, clarity, and grounded leadership in their marriage, business, body, and faith.
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This is not motivation.
Not hype.
And not about fixing yourself.
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It’s about remembering who you are when pressure is highest and choosing not to shrink.
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Gentle Rage is for men who are ready to lead with presence, restraint, and conviction again.
